I. The Logical Appeal:
The claim: Internet dating is not a fulfilling or successful way of finding love.
The reasons:
• Internet dating can be a waste of time and money
o Article about spending time on many different sites and not finding love
• Online profiles do not show all aspects of a person’s personality- the bad qualities are not told
o Article about a good profile but after actually getting to know them, were nothing like their profile
• Online dating is an unnatural way of finding love
o Article about how love cannot be bought
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I would disagree with your claim that internet dating is not a fulfilling or successful way of finding love. I believe that this online process might make it more difficult to find love, but love is still love. Once you are successful in finding love, whether online or by meeting at some chance location, the satisfaction or fulfillment you receive from this emotion is the same.
People can spend their whole lives searching for that perfect sole mate to achieve happiness out of life. Internet dating can help provide people with the chance to meet online in addition to meeting them somewhere else, increasing this opportunity for happiness. Therefore, in my opinion, this unconventional style of dating is no waste of time or money.
Yes, these sites do not display the bad qualities on peoples’ profiles, but it’s a natural human characteristic to want to put your best foot forward. We don’t exactly blurt out “I’m a jerk!” when we first meet someone. You have to actually get to know people to see if their personality is compatible with yours. Online dating sites can be a great way to meet someone who think may be compatible. After meeting up and spending time with that person, you can decide if they are right for you. This is the same approach people use in traditional dating. They meet, think they might be interested, and decide spend more time together to see if their relationship will work out.
I’m not saying I would participate in theses sites, but I have seen these sites be successful in creating lasting relationships. My grandpa met his wife online, and he is happily married. I also, believe Jean Twenge met her husband online as well. These sites might not be as commonly used as other methods of finding love, but they are still successful and provide satisfaction in life.
It’s funny you say that. If I had had no first hand experience with online dating, I would totally agree. You are connected to so many different kinds of people; hell- you can join dating websites that are for specific religions, incomes, areas of the country, etc.
When my mom started online dating, my siblings are I sort of made fun of her. The fact that she was resorting to the Internet to find romance seemed silly, but she had had such bad luck with guys that I believed it might actually be a success. Wrong.
My Mom has been in four major relationships in the last 10 years, including move-ins, and second marriage. It’s a pattern. She meets someone, thinks they are awesome. Goes on a date, and she either 1. Can’t believe how different they were in person than their online persona or 2. It gets serious, and THEN she realizes how incompatible they are.
Not only does it cost a lot of money to keep a profile, and not to mention the hours she has spent at the computer “searching” for love, she has yet to find someone that truly matches what she wants in a romantic partner. The profiles that online daters fill out hardly say much, and although the sites so run background checks, most people end up lying about their personal information. Whether it is about what they hope for the future, what they value, or what their annual income is, no one wants to be too honest or else others will no be attracted to them. One guy my Mom started dating was actually still married! He didn’t mention this until their fourth date, which in my opinion is a huge detail to dismiss for a later unfolding. What a waste of time, and get this: he wasn’t planning on getting divorced.
All in all, while there are those who have found online dating to be somewhat successful in finding a companion, there are even more who end up empty-handed and lonelier than before. Activities such as bike-riding and long walks on the beach say nothing about who a person really is, and what they can bring to a relationship.
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